THORNS AMONG ROSES
Presented March 16, 2009
To the Chicago Literary
Club, Chicago, Illinois
Florence D. McMillan
THORNS AMONG ROSES
The
subject is roses – dramatic, vibrant, intriguing. Thorny.
Five
strong women, rising from fertile beginnings, of different stock. Dangerous when provoked.
Bertha
Honore Palmer: 1850-1918
Medora,
Marquise de Mores: 1856-1921
Alice
Roosevelt Longworth: 1884-1980
Dorothy
Parker: 1893-1967
Gloria
Steinem: 1934-
These
women were known, however briefly, to one another.
They
had much in common.
They
were all women of means.
They
all smoked in public.
All
but one had lovers.
And
each had descended the grand staircase of the Plaza Hotel in New York at least
once.
Bertha
Honore Palmer, the first to be born, came up from Kentucky with her parents and
was married at twenty-two to a successful merchant twice her age, Mr. Potter
Palmer. Mr. Palmer was a partner with
Marshall Field in a thriving and innovative retail venture which had made him
wealthy and more than able to provide for Bertha. He presented to her as a wedding gift the
Palmer House, the largest and most extravagantly appointed hotel in the
Midwest, if not the country. Rudyard
Kipling, never one to mince words, called it “a gilded and mirrored rabbit
warren.”
More
than once Potter Palmer called Bertha “his favorite extravagance.” Thirteen days after its completion the Palmer
House burned to the ground. In a gesture
which astonished Chicagoans, Palmer began immediately to rebuild it. The new, even grander, edifice was completed
in just a year after the fire.
The
palmers gave large, fancy dress balls for the local merchants and meat
packers. Viewing his wife, receiving at
the foot of the staircase, Palmer turned to a friend and said proudly, “There
she stands … with two million on her!”
Even
in jewels Bertha Palmer looked less like the Statue of Liberty than a ship
under full sail. She was shortly to
embark on the first, and probably most outstanding achievement, the Woman’s
Building at the Columbian Exposition, Chicago’s World’s Fair, in 1893.
It
was Bertha’s idea to build a large and impressive pavilion “for women and of
women’s work.” She could have engineered
this herself, or even given the necessary funds, but as a financially shrewd
and socially adept woman, she chose to encourage “determined women everywhere”
to demand that the United States Congress allocate $200,000 to assure the
pavilion and create a Board of Lady Managers to undertake the completion of the
Woman’s Building.
And
the chairman was … The envelope, please, Mrs. Potter Palmer! One member of the all –male Board of
Commissioners said that when he heard news of the appropriation and Bertha’s
election, he felt a “dread chill.”
The
first thorn was pressed in gently by Mrs. Palmer, who, in acknowledging the
government’s funding of the Board of Lady Managers said,
“Even more important than the discovery of
Columbus is the fact that the federal government has just discovered women.”
The
Exposition was opened by the Infanta Eulalia, royal princess of Spain, whom
Bertha referred to as “this bibulous representative of a degenerate monarchy.”
Her
sharp tongue notwithstanding, Bertha Palmer made an impressive success of the
Woman’s Building. For every person who entered
an exhibit, ten visited the Woman’s Building.
Huge tanks of water were placed on the island to provide water and
toilet facilities. The Woman’s Building
had lavatories, facilities for child care and breast feeding, and lounges so
that mothers and families could rest.
The visitors to the pavilion were entranced with the exhibits of crafts
and handwork done by hundreds of women.
One
of Bertha’s most prescient, if
regretful, decisions was to display all of the offerings from each contributing
country. Though some were, like the
cucumbers at the county fair, humble; national pride was well served.
Mrs.
Palmer’s closing address to Fairgoers, a treasure trove of thorny remarks,
beside which all such reports will forever pale, told it like she thought it
was. She said:
If we consider it an unwritten law that it
is the duty of the husband and father to maintain his wife and children, then
we must face the fact that the majority of men must be failures, for they are certainly
today unable to accomplish this result with any comfort to themselves or
families.
Bertha
Palmer had used her energy, wealth, and prodigious talent to make the Woman’s
Pavilion at the Columbian Exposition a success.
And then, it must be noted that she
wrote her OWN “Tribute to the Chairman!”
One
obvious and well documented thorn in Bertha’s side was her neighbor, Mother
Jones, a tough, well-spoken champion of the working class, who, upon reading in
the newspaper that Mrs. Palmer would host a conference for 500 labor leaders
and employers at her residence, was moved to write to her:
“I
credit you with perfect sincerity in this matter, being fully aware that your
environment and whole life has prevented you from seeing and understanding the
TRUE RELATIONSHIP of the working class and the capitalist class, and the nature
of the conflict.”
She
goes on to say:
“Capitalists
dragged me out of bed in Colorado and marched me at point of fixed bayonets to
the border line of Kansas in the nighttime.
The class whose representatives you will entertain did this to me. Other lawless acts have and are being
committed every hour and will continue till the working class send
representatives into the legislative halls of this nation. The workers are coming to understand this
and, while respecting you, understand the uselessness of such conferences as
will assemble in your mansion.”
For
over 100 years attention has been drawn to Bertha Palmer through photographs of
her mansion, her hotel, her costumes and jewelry. She was, in fact a shrewd investor and
accountant, buying Impressionist paintings in France which now make up the bulk
of the Art Institute of Chicago’s collection.
She owned, at the time of her death, one-third of Sarasota County in the
state of Florida. Called The Oaks, it
was a 30,000 acre cattle farm, now the Myakha River State Park.
Her
greatest and surely proudest accomplishment was to advance feminist causes and
encourage women to find work. She is the
earliest of these five women to consider the role of women in society.
If Bertha Palmer was an elegant long-stemmed beauty,
Medora, the Marquise de Mores, is a contemporary more that her equal. Perhaps “Prairie Rose” is a more apt
description of her place in the emerging West.
Born in 1856, she was the daughter of Louis von Hoffman, a lesser,
though wealthy, German baron, who was a founder of The Knickerbocker Club in
New York City. It was always the intent
of her parents to place her in a situation which allowed her to “marry
up.” To that end they rented a grand
chateau near Cannes, France in the hope that her beauty would present her with
a suitably noble prospect.
Opportunity
struck soon. Medora was married the next
winter, 1884, to a dashing, St. Cyr –educated lieutenant; charming, handsome,
and destitute. Her mother had selected a
trousseau to fit her for New York society, and her father had purchased a
medium-sized mansion on 5th Avenue for the young couple. To their great horror and ignored pleas, the
Marquis plucked his bride from the bouquet of roses which surrounded her and
placed her in the midst of the brambles of western North Dakota. The Marquis de Mores’ vision lay in the
mauvais terres, the Dakota badlands, which glowed with burning lines of
coal night and day, promising riches to the hardy, which Medora turned out to
be.
After
a transcontinental railway trip of more than a week, they descended onto the
empty prairie and waited for the Marquis’ valet to install the tent in which
they lived together for two months. Like
bertha Palmer, the Marquise slept in satin sheets, which were made up for her
on top of North Dakota’s thorny grasses.
Accustomed to both wealth and staff, Medora took the bull by the horns
and managed to finish the construction of a 17 room (as large as bertha’s) wood
home, which she immediately christened “The Chateau.” It houses and slept her 15 servants on the
top floor and accommodated her baby grand piano easily. Shortly thereafter she sent for her New York
furnishings and installed the first bathroom com commode in North Dakota.
The
natives, nearly all men, considered her to be royalty, and she acted that
way. She ordered all the supplies and
food, kept all the household accounts, and made the payroll. She both rode and hunted with the rough and ready
cowboys who surrounded her. Her father,
lacking a son, had trained her as a sharpshooter from his lodge on Staten
Island. She killed partridge, pheasant,
and bison. It has been historically
substantiated that she shot three bears on one of these expeditions!
The
Marquis had embarked upon his bold dream to build an abattoir, a
slaughterhouse, and acquired immense herds of cattle in the middle of
nowhere. He hired any and all men from
his lawless settlement to fulfill his plan:
to slaughter livestock, dress it on site, and load it onto refrigerated
rail cars (a fairly new invention) to be shipped direct to markets on the east
Coast. The cattle, coming off the range,
would be fatter and he could cut out the middlemen.
The
Marquis’ operation was at first successful, yet doomed to fail, as Bertha
Palmer could have told him. Those
middlemen were her husband’s formidable business associates. Philip Armour had already garnered two
million on the broken back of the Confederacy by selling pork short. Gustavus Swift had already had the idea,
joining with his friend Hormel to fill refrigerator cars directly from the
Chicago stockyards. These men had turned
meat into money, sows ears into silk, and linguistics into legislation. Their fortuned had already blossomed like the
roses in their serge lapels. De Mores
had grossly mis-estimated the depth and power of his enemies.
These
titans of Chicago industry were fascinated by de Mores’ imagination and early
success, but he was to them no more than a fly in the soup. When they called in their chips in New York
and Boston , all the orders dried up and the Marquis was left without a
market. Dozens of refrigerated rail cars
were mysteriously unhitched and left on railroad tracks, loaded with rotting
carcasses, leading to nowhere. De
Mores had long since lost his fortune and could not pay his debts. He was a pariah in the eyes of both eastern
and Midwest businessmen.
Medora
herself had left a thorny trail in North Dakota. Her husband shot regularly with Theodore
Roosevelt on the plains and along the Missouri River. But in the end he welched on the price of
some beef he’d agreed to sell to the future President. Roosevelt’s sister, Bamie, who acted as his
hostess after his wife’s death, informed him that although she “felt sorry for
his poor wife”, she would not seat the Marquis at her table anywhere.
And
then there was the matter of Riley Luffsey, Medora’s hunting guide.
More
than one historical source suggests that both the Marquis and his wife had
engaged in at least one love affair, leading to the supposition that Riley
Luffsey, who was shot to death in a saloon by the Marquis, may have been that
lover. Mores was acquitted at trial, but
this shooting and the stain on his daughter’s reputation were, for von Hoffman,
the last straw.
Quietly,
but definitely, he paid the Marquis’ debts, settled a generous livelihood on
Medora and her husband, and forbade them ever to return to the United States
again.
Mores
and Medora lived in Paris for many years until again, the Marquis embroiled himself
in a duel, and Medora separated from him for good. In 1892 he embarked on a safari destined for
Libya. He was never seen again. Reports in Paris suggested that he was killed
by a tribe of Bedouins who surrounded him in the desert.
Medora,
intrepid and insistent, as always, hired a pacquet boat in Marseille and set
off for the Sahara, armed with these accounts, and assembled a party of
adventurers and Moroccans to help her search for the body of the Marquis. At the end the others decamped, and she
marked a spot at which she became convinced that he had been killed. Returning to France, she arranged for a
life-sized bronze statue to be cast and installed in the desert.
Medora,
Marquise de Mores, returned to Cannes, where she turned her home into a
hospital for soldiers injured during World War One. Her accounts remained
impeccable until the day of her death in 1921.Her chateau in North Dakota
remained. The Marquis’ statue has disappeared. And the Palmers are entombed in Graceland
Cemetery.
Alice
Roosevelt Longworth, 1884-1980 was the
oldest of the six children of Theodore Roosevelt. She was born at the same time her father,
teddy, was shooting buffalo with the Marquis de Mores . She won an Olympic medal in 1904, shortly
after Medora and her disgraced husband left for Paris. Her “Auntie Bye”, who raised her until her
father remarried, was none other than Roosevelt’s sister, Bamie, who had banned
the Marquis from her dinner table. Alice
was, for all intents and purposes turned over to her Aunt Bye because, it was
said, she was “intractable.”
A
gentler word for it was, of course, “thorny.”
She loudly spurned Christianity, she placed bets with bookies – IN the
White House, she jumped into pools and ran away to the Sumo matches while her
father was ironing out the final touches of the Treaty of Portsmouth. During Woodrow Wilson’s presidency, she was invited to a White House
dinner only once and nevermore for telling an off-color joke at Wilson’s
expense.
She
was her father’s favorite, though. He
called her “my sweet little Alice Blue Gown”, a nickname made famous by the
song. He is purported to have said to a
colleague, “I can either run the country or I can attend to Alice, but I cannot
possibly do both.”
Among
other indiscretions, Alice was a political activist. She was a republican, but campaigned against
her own husband when he ran for the U.S. Congress. He lost.
One historian, a master of understatement, has said that “It caused a
permanent chill in the marriage.” The
ice thickened later when she admitted publicly that Senator William Borch was
the father of her daughter, Pauline.
Alice was against her husband, against the League of Nations, against
President Taft (She set a voodoo doll on the White House lawn the day he moved
in.) and against her cousin Franklin Delano Roosevelt.
When
the political columnist, Joseph Alsop, claimed that Wendell Willkie had
grass-roots support, Alice replied, “Yes, the grass-roots of ten thousand
country clubs!” Many years later,
hearing that Alsop’s brother, Stewart, a political pundit, had been diagnosed
with pancreatic cancer, Alice sent him roses with a personal note: “Dear Stew, What a nuisance.”
Alice
had roses for few others. She had a
pillow on her sofa which said,”If you can’t say anything nice, come sit by
me.” Commenting on a Senator’s affair
with a woman half his age, she said, “You can’t make a soufflé rise twice.”
Perhaps
influenced by the social upheavals of the ‘60’s, she proclaimed herself “an
honorary homosexual.” A lifelong
Republican, she voted for John F. Kennedy, and Lyndon Johnson in 1964 because
she thought Goldwater was “too mean.”
Surely that was the thorn calling the rose black!
Alice
Longworth as political activist may not have had a heart of gold, but she
certainly could provide a chuckle. Her
most famous – and superb – masculine put-down was when she christened
Presidential candidate Thomas E. Dewey, ‘the little man on the wedding cake.”
Because
she lived to the age of 96, Alice Longworth spanned the lifetimes of all of
these five women. In the cases of Parker
and Steinem she interacted with them.
Sharing their causes, protesting as they did, she said to Joseph McCarthy
during his Senate Investigations of Communism in America:
The truck man, the trash man, and the
policeman on the
Block may call me Alice, but you may not.”
Dorothy
Parker (1893-1967), the poet and critic, was arrested in 1916 for protesting
the executions of Sacco and Vanzetti and charged with “loitering and
sauntering.” Thought of as an ironic and
cynical commentator (She invented the expressions “behind the 8 ball” and
“grass widow”) Parker’s wisecracks and wit are poignant in the French sense, whose word for it is
“fist”. Her social comments and protests
were more that barbed. Her role as
organizer of the Screenwriters Guild was responsible in part for her inclusion
on Joseph McCarthy’s infamous “Black List”, which destroyed dozens of Hollywood
careers. In 1948 she smashed signs on
Sunset Boulevard in protest of his investigations. She was made to testify before the House UnAmerican
Activities Committee.
Her
entire estate was left to Martin Luther King,Jr. shortly before his assassination. Her ashes, gone missing for 17 years, were
claimed by the NAACP, which buried them with her chosen epitaph: “Excuse my dust.”
Gloria
Steinem, the pre-eminent leader of women’s rights in the late twentieth
century, knew Dorothy Parker during her last years and appreciated her as both
thorn and catalyst. Steinem described
her as a precursor of the new feminism, saying that she understood the double
standards that stood in the way of equality.
Steinem,
through her active involvement in this generation’s social justice agendas,
many of them initiated by her, has been largely credited for the success of the
women’s liberation movement. Her
platform of respect, rewarding work, and equal treatment has made her the
champion of class, gender, and race. She
is now – tempus fugit – seventy-five years old.
Steinem’s
parents divorced when she was eight years old.
She lived, mostly with her older sister, in Washington, D.C.until she
attended Smith College, a single-sex school.
At Smith she was a vocal proponent of feminist issues, continuing the
debate over women’s enfranchisement begun by suffragettes (her grandmother
among them) fifty years earlier. She
pointed out that women had not been “given the vote”; they had won it.
Shortly
after her graduation from Smith in 1956, she went to England to have an
abortion. This experience led her to
join the Redstockings, a group of women working to change the abortion laws in
New York State, and began a lifetime championing of a woman’s right to
reproductive choice.
In
spite of a plethora of notable accomplishments, Steinem is, even today, solely
identified by many for a classic of investigative journalism which she wrote
for Show Magazine in the Fifties.
She applied for a job as a Playboy Bunny at Hugh Hefner’s club. She was hired and worked “undercover”,
writing an article to expose the poor working conditions and meager wages of
these women.
Steinem
says today that the article, for which she was derided and patronized by the
media, damaged her credibility as a serious feminist more than anything she
wrote. Her career was journalism; her
cause was women’s rights. She was
prolific, writing for New York Magazine, Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and often for
The Washington Post and the New York Times.
In
1972 she launched MS Magazine, as Editor-in-Chief. Within a year the magazine had half a million
subscribers and continues today as an influential and financial success. It is significant to note that in 1907 Mother
Jones wrote her letter to Bertha Palmer.
In 1995 Gloria Steinem wrote an article in Mother Jones, a
national magazine known as a forum for race and class issues.
Most
people are aware of Gloria Steinem as a social and political activist. She sat-in in Selma for racial equality. The Viet Nam war protests galvanized her
efforts and gave her a larger purpose – to mobilize the feminist movement,
which had lain dormant until the mid- sixties.
Her issues were political office for women and equal pay for equal work. “Years of being ‘chicks, dogs, and cows’” she
said, “have led to the desire to label men as male chauvinist pigs.” She allied herself with the New Left and the
Kennedy administration, but when Richard Daley was at the 1968 Democratic
Convention, Steinem was in Chicago – in Lincoln Park. Politics make strange bed-persons!
If
Gloria Steinem is the face of feminism, three events in which she played an
important role have permanently changed the social climate of the United
States. The first is her formation of
the National Women’s Political Caucus in 1971.
Growing out of the Women’s action alliance, which battled race and
class-based discrimination, the National Women’s Political caucus, initiated by
Steinem, gave women a significant and powerful voice in legislative and
judicial processes.
During
this period, Steinem and millions of her “sisters” lobbied for the passage of
the Equal Rights Amendment referendum, which failed to pass. At the time Alice Longworth said:
Woman suffrage has made little difference
beyond doubling the number of voters.
There is no Woman’s Vote as such.
They divide up just about as men do.”
The National Women’s Political Caucus didn’t agree, but Alice’s father
probably did.
The
most stunning development, one Steinem had worked for long and hard, was the
1973 Supreme Court decision in Roe v. Wade, in which the Court ruled that the constitutionally
guaranteed right to privacy protects a woman’s right to choose abortion.
Steinem’s
detractors describe her as “a tough broad” or a “Bunny Tale “. She is a difficult thorn in the sides of
many. The even-handed might say that she
has been an outspoken leader who took a vague notion of “Woman’s Lib” and
forged it into a new possibility for women.
I
wish to conclude with the voices of two women a century apart:
Bertha
Honore Palmer - in 1893
“Should
men discover at any time in the future that they are capable of assuming the
entire maintenance of the home, women can undoubtedly be persuaded to give up
the tedious and wearing grind of the factory, the shop, and the office, to turn
to higher service.”
Gloria
Steinem – in 1995
“The
goal now is to complete ourselves.
Progress for women lies in becoming more assertive and ambitious. Progress for men will lie in becoming more
compassionate, more comfortable working inside the home.”
Bertha
Palmer, Medora von Hoffman, Dorothy Parker, Alice Longworth, Gloria Steinem:
Born
into advantaged circumstances
Challenged
by difficulty.
These
are women of confidence and action who continue to give us food for
thought. They present a continuum of
purpose and vision, and a partial answer to Sigmund Freud’s agonized question:
“What
does woman want? Dear God, what does she
want!”
Perhaps,
sometimes, a rose is not enough.
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